The Dismantled Generation

You know how everyone's reacting to Sushant Singh Rajput's death cause it seems so personal to all of us. People cannot seem to come in terms with the fact that he was in depression for more than 6 months and hence they are bashing the celebs for saying things about him in interviews that might have affected him badly. But then, even after all this what different are we all doing, you are trolling actors like Abhishek Bacchan for being worthless, for having a bad career. The same treatment was once given to Sushant too, it's just that he happened lose control of the situation and wasn't well-equipped with facing failures. I happened to share this same viewpoint on my story, I came across a sarcasm from one of my friend on this who just a day before had put up a story on how important it is to speak and that he'll be there to listen it all. Well, if this is how you accept someone's viewpoints and then expect people to come to you and talk, then there's something serious you need to fix about yourself first.

They say talk to us when depressed. Well, for that you need to establish that kind of connection first to let people come to you. Secondly, I wish it is that easy to literally blurt out all the secrets, miseries, weaknesses to a person who might later take a toll on you because that is what happens majorly.

I talked with some real people about what it actually is to be at this loose end to get to the grassroot of it and this is what they have to say about it.

"I feel its very difficult to communicate with people because they pretent to be understanding you but they are infact really judging you in their heads. It makes me hesistant honestly because they say "you are thinking too much and that's why you are feeling depressed" which is not the case, they fail to understand which is much more complex. It's something i have been struggling right from childhood.

Since my tender age of 7, I have been a victim of bullying, i remember talking to my teacher, letting my heart out but, for some reason, she thought none would bully a young girl. I was sent to an all girls school with the hope of not getting bullied but alas. I used to come back crying wiping my tears and showing no signs of being broken. When I grew older i remember being hit with shoes in school. And the worst part is when you share something as sensitive as overthinking, flooded minds, uncertainity, it gives them a chance to joke about it calling it subtle sarcasm. Yes I have been suicidal and I'm not ashamed. I have been laughed for being thin. But i was ill i am ill , i have had a family to cater i had an ill father i have lost. Feeling left alone is the worst, its something I'm still struggling with. Communication is zero in this country. The scenerio won't change until mental health is given that kind of respect and recognition, that it is a problem and it's not a shame to be going to a doctor. The stigma needs to end. The attitude needs to change."
                                               Anonymous

"In these modern days, people have a very competitive mind. Days and nights, they compare and compete. Be it showing themselves as being very established and successful on social media, or be it the difficulties or problems others face.

At some point of life, we've always been compared to someone who is seemingly doing better than us or being judged by our society for our choices or simply being ourselves, leading further to our lower self esteem. We speak more, we listen less.
One day, you think you should speak to someone, maybe someone close, so that it may help you feel better. You pick your phone up, you hesitate but you dial that number, you eventually speak about your problem, and tadaa, you'll be rewarded with a story of greater problem from the person you thought would understand.. you retreat! you're expected to feel comforted that your problem isn't that great but guess what? it makes us feel more uncomfortable, more unworthy, more hopeless.
We only have to make it easier for others.. we need to listen more patiently and not slam them with our problems.. there is always another time for that.
sometimes, just listening may do wonders!"
                                 Abantika Chattopadhyay